Do You Know The Way To San Jose?
As Dionne Warwick was asking in 1968, and my answer now is “Yes I do!”… From Birmingham, UK. It took approximately 24 hours travel time to get arrive at my destination and that in itself was an experience — enhanced by my knowledge of the three principles.
After I booked my flight to San Jose, via Amsterdam and Seattle, I realised there may have been easier and quicker routes but it really didn’t matter….honestly! Because I’d had a conversation with my mentor some months ago about plane travel which completely changed my mind about long distance travel.
A Paradigm Shift That Led To A Love Of Travel
When my parents lived in Jamaica, I would visit them twice a year, however to get to the sunny isle from my home in England I would have a 10 hour journey which I dreaded. The thought of sitting on a plane for that length of time seemed like an eternity, no where to go, just waiting for the arrival. This felt like torture for me, feeling completely powerless as I had no choice but to wait until the plane arrived.
During one of my supervision sessions with Aaron Turner I mentioned to him that I would love to visit Santa Clara and/or the Pransky’s in La Conner, Washington. When he told me how long it would take to get to these destinations, my heart sank. “I hate flying,” I said, “because of the waiting around and doing nothing.” To which he replied: “No, it’s great!” ( clearly a mad man, I thought) “because I get to do all the things I don’t normally do. I get to watch t.v read, sleep in the middle of the day…it’s great!”
I paused and thought about this: if I were to do any of those things in the middle of the day I would feel extremely guilty as I would feel I should be doing work of some kind or cleaning the house, anything but sitting down and doing …nothing!
But on a plane, I can sit and do nothing because there isn’t much else to do.
Living In The Moment
I then realised why previous journeys had been unbearable, I had been waiting to get to the destination, thinking; thinking about what I would do when I arrived in Jamaica and looking forward to seeing my parents. It was because I was looking at what was going to happen instead of being focused upon what was happening and available in the moment I was in. Looking ahead meant to me that I had to wait 19 hours door to door, to do the things I wanted to do when instead of enjoying the movie, book or sweet sleep I could have without any feelings of guilt.
So during my 24 hour journey to San Jose, I read a book on business marketing, watched the movie “In Time”, read my magazines and slept..a lot.
I enjoyed every minute because I experienced the moment for what it was; not comparing it to the experiences that lay ahead or what I could have been doing at home with the same time but enjoying what I was doing in that moment.
Stay in the moment and enjoy the full experience of your choice in that moment.
It was not the same experience on the way home, I fidgeted, observed the time pass on my watch and slept, sporadically to my destination. Even though I did not enjoy the moment, at least I understood why.